Not even a liiiittle beating around the bush? Fine, fine. Your idea of change, and being in a situation the precipitates it, or hitting a point where you just can't stay the way you are any longer. Hmm.
[ an airy sigh, one finger tapping at his chin in thought as his eyes narrow. ]
Sometimes you end up in a place where you realize that wow, if you keep doing what you've been doing, then nothing good really will ever come of it. Either for yourself, or anyone else. Sometimes you end up somewhere where the only person to blame for where you are is yourself, so you might as well take a good hard look at how you ended up there. See if you still want to be that guy. Or, sometimes you reach a point where you know that if you make a certain decision— there's no going back from it.
It's not all that dramatic, though. People don't just change entirely, just like that. They don't change at their core just because they messed with something they shouldn't and discovered there might be consequences for it. Sometimes change just comes in the form of building yourself back up with what you know now, and trying to be just a little bit better. So in that sense, anyone can change. No one's incapable of it.
But just because something can, doesn't mean it will. I think that both you and I know plenty of reasons for why someone faced with good reason or impetus to change ... just won't! So likewise, I think you'd have to be pretty naive to go into something hoping for change to make it all better.
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[ an airy sigh, one finger tapping at his chin in thought as his eyes narrow. ]
Sometimes you end up in a place where you realize that wow, if you keep doing what you've been doing, then nothing good really will ever come of it. Either for yourself, or anyone else. Sometimes you end up somewhere where the only person to blame for where you are is yourself, so you might as well take a good hard look at how you ended up there. See if you still want to be that guy. Or, sometimes you reach a point where you know that if you make a certain decision— there's no going back from it.
It's not all that dramatic, though. People don't just change entirely, just like that. They don't change at their core just because they messed with something they shouldn't and discovered there might be consequences for it. Sometimes change just comes in the form of building yourself back up with what you know now, and trying to be just a little bit better. So in that sense, anyone can change. No one's incapable of it.
But just because something can, doesn't mean it will. I think that both you and I know plenty of reasons for why someone faced with good reason or impetus to change ... just won't! So likewise, I think you'd have to be pretty naive to go into something hoping for change to make it all better.